Comments on: Depression, post-partum depression or something alot like it http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/ Pregnancy, babies and small children: the truth about motherhood. Sun, 23 Nov 2008 10:29:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Donna http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-373 Donna Fri, 14 Jul 2006 01:37:52 +0000 http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-373 Hey, Ella -- I have those kind of feelings a lot, too, and it's been 10 years since I was post partum anything. Rest is good. From the subsequent posts, it looks like you're doing a good job battling this thing. Hey, Ella — I have those kind of feelings a lot, too, and it’s been 10 years since I was post partum anything.

Rest is good. From the subsequent posts, it looks like you’re doing a good job battling this thing.

]]> By: Anonymous http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-372 Anonymous Mon, 12 Jun 2006 18:35:00 +0000 http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-372 It sounds like you could afford a nanny? Or a maid to come in and do all the laundry and cleaning? I would do something before you have to move on top of all of this.... I am moving right now and it is exhausting and very stressful!! Also, you mention carrying the baby at all times or he will cry. I think if you don't keep picking him up he will get used to it. Conversely, if you keep picking him up, he knows you will come running when he cries and he will always cry to be picked up. I'm sure you know all of this but haven't had the energy to do anything about it yet! It sounds like you could afford a nanny? Or a maid to come in and do all the laundry and cleaning? I would do something before you have to move on top of all of this…. I am moving right now and it is exhausting and very stressful!!

Also, you mention carrying the baby at all times or he will cry. I think if you don’t keep picking him up he will get used to it. Conversely, if you keep picking him up, he knows you will come running when he cries and he will always cry to be picked up.

I’m sure you know all of this but haven’t had the energy to do anything about it yet!

]]> By: Lou http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-371 Lou Wed, 07 Jun 2006 04:48:00 +0000 http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-371 Me too! Me too! I feel that way A LOT. And it turned out I catually did have pretty server depression- it wasn't all boo-hoo I'm so sad, It was more like I am fricking pissed off- ALL THE TIME. I take irritable to a new level. Finally, when Maggie was about 15 months I went to the dr and got on some meds- they have really helped. I'm not perfect, I still feel a desperate need to accomplish something other than housekeeping and baby tending- but I'm more positive and better able to deal with stuff. Hope your passes quickly! For me, time away from the kiddos helps a lot! Me too! Me too! I feel that way A LOT.

And it turned out I catually did have pretty server depression- it wasn’t all boo-hoo I’m so sad, It was more like I am fricking pissed off- ALL THE TIME. I take irritable to a new level.

Finally, when Maggie was about 15 months I went to the dr and got on some meds- they have really helped. I’m not perfect, I still feel a desperate need to accomplish something other than housekeeping and baby tending- but I’m more positive and better able to deal with stuff.

Hope your passes quickly! For me, time away from the kiddos helps a lot!

]]> By: Anonymous http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-370 Anonymous Wed, 07 Jun 2006 03:32:00 +0000 http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-370 Ell - I've emailed you. Love W Ell - I’ve emailed you. Love W

]]> By: Sarah K http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-369 Sarah K Tue, 06 Jun 2006 23:38:00 +0000 http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-369 I'm de-lurking after many months of reading to say how much I like your writing and how I hope you find some answers to this difficult time. I started taking Citalopram when I started showing signs of depression. I hated it, the side-effects were terrible and I have subsequently been able to overcome the worst of the depression with a great support network and counselling. I realise this way is not for everyone but it is an alternative to anti-depressants. I also had help from Home-Start every week for several months. Know that I am wishing you all the best. I’m de-lurking after many months of reading to say how much I like your writing and how I hope you find some answers to this difficult time. I started taking Citalopram when I started showing signs of depression. I hated it, the side-effects were terrible and I have subsequently been able to overcome the worst of the depression with a great support network and counselling. I realise this way is not for everyone but it is an alternative to anti-depressants. I also had help from Home-Start every week for several months.

Know that I am wishing you all the best.

]]> By: Anonymous http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-368 Anonymous Tue, 06 Jun 2006 19:30:00 +0000 http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-368 I found your site through a link on a friend's site and I have really enjoyed reading your refreshingly honest and witty stories. I understand totally what you are feeling right now... overwhelmed and underwhelmed at the same time, anxious, depressed, etc... Of course kids are a blessing, we love them immensely, wouldn't trade them for anything, blah blah blah But they can also absolutely wear you out physically and emotionally until you're on the verge of collapse. About 6 weeks postpartum after my youngest son, I started taking Paxil. All I can say is Thank God for Paxil! I took it for about 4 months and it was my saving grace. I know you're breastfeeding so I realize that meds are a big concern. I just wanted to tell you to hang in there and I'm sending you positive, strength-filled thoughts. This too shall pass. Fondly, Meredith I found your site through a link on a friend’s site and I have really enjoyed reading your refreshingly honest and witty stories. I understand totally what you are feeling right now… overwhelmed and underwhelmed at the same time, anxious, depressed, etc… Of course kids are a blessing, we love them immensely, wouldn’t trade them for anything, blah blah blah But they can also absolutely wear you out physically and emotionally until you’re on the verge of collapse. About 6 weeks postpartum after my youngest son, I started taking Paxil. All I can say is Thank God for Paxil! I took it for about 4 months and it was my saving grace. I know you’re breastfeeding so I realize that meds are a big concern. I just wanted to tell you to hang in there and I’m sending you positive, strength-filled thoughts. This too shall pass.
Fondly, Meredith

]]> By: Madeleine http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-367 Madeleine Tue, 06 Jun 2006 00:27:00 +0000 http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-367 Ella, this is such a difficult phase you're in, and you are working hard at holding it together. I hope you can find a little bit of time to be good to yourself. The reasons you don't want meds make sense, they really do. But please get some care or some respite time. Ella, this is such a difficult phase you’re in, and you are working hard at holding it together. I hope you can find a little bit of time to be good to yourself. The reasons you don’t want meds make sense, they really do. But please get some care or some respite time.

]]> By: Anonymous http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-366 Anonymous Tue, 06 Jun 2006 00:02:00 +0000 http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-366 This is a very sad post. I hope you find some solutions. This is a very sad post. I hope you find some solutions.

]]> By: Sam http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-365 Sam Mon, 05 Jun 2006 23:17:00 +0000 http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-365 I second everything that the others have said. I would also add that this phase when they are very small is short and life will become much more balanced when they are even just a bit older. You will also (hopefully!) get more sleep when they are not so young. I second everything that the others have said. I would also add that this phase when they are very small is short and life will become much more balanced when they are even just a bit older. You will also (hopefully!) get more sleep when they are not so young.

]]> By: Outburst http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-364 Outburst Mon, 05 Jun 2006 21:50:00 +0000 http://mostleast.com/2006/06/05/depression-post-partum-depression-or-something-alot-like-it/#comment-364 My wife always has the baby in her arms too. Raising a child is one of the most unselfish and wonderful jobs you may ever have in your life. It may not be as flashy as writing a book or a song, as financially rewarding as trading stocks or immediately fulfilling as any of the above, but in the grand scheme of things it is so much more important and beneficial to the world. With that said, it is a very consuming task and doesn't have 9to5 boundaries, as you know. My wife thought she'd be able to do everything, including dinner and laundry, cleaning and entertaining but when I come home, she hasn't even had time to shower or brush her teeth. Ask for help if you can. Find someone to babysit for a few hours and get out and do something for yourself. I don't get why the world thinks that being a mother is such a simple task. Don't be fooled into thinking that you have to make it look easy. My wife always has the baby in her arms too.
Raising a child is one of the most unselfish and wonderful jobs you may ever have in your life.
It may not be as flashy as writing a book or a song, as financially rewarding as trading stocks or immediately fulfilling as any of the above, but in the grand scheme of things it is so much more important and beneficial to the world.
With that said, it is a very consuming task and doesn’t have 9to5 boundaries, as you know.
My wife thought she’d be able to do everything, including dinner and laundry, cleaning and entertaining but when I come home, she hasn’t even had time to shower or brush her teeth.
Ask for help if you can. Find someone to babysit for a few hours and get out and do something for yourself.
I don’t get why the world thinks that being a mother is such a simple task. Don’t be fooled into thinking that you have to make it look easy.

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