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Mind matters
By ella | May 18, 2006
The daily battles start early: Eldest Son, who is four, puts up the best fight he can muster to avoid pre-school each morning. When he gets home he is tired and badly behaved. His teacher told me today that he is acting immaturely at school and is not really ready to start big school in September. His lack of attention at home may apparently be a factor in this.
Second Son who is nearly three has not quite started pre-school. He has also given up his daytime nap. Most of his friends are his brother’s friends; they are at pre-school and so we don’t have many playdates during the school term. When we drive out of the pre-school driveway he asks longingly to go to the grocery store, he finds the mornings at home that dull, despite my best efforts to entertain him between tending to the cranky baby and doing the chores.
Youngest Son, at four months, is not quite into any routine. Of any sort.
The mother’s help is no more.
The days are long and tiring, punctuated only by the ten minute catnaps that Youngest Son takes which allow me time to pee, prepare supper and, if I’m lucky, throw in some laundry.
The casualities of these difficult domestic circumstances are my sanity and my blogging. And oddly, I miss the blogging more.
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Sorry you’re having a bit of a rough time at the moment. I miss the fact that you don’t post every day anymore but we all know you are busy (don’t know how you do it!). Blog when you can, we’ll be here. And I hope you get a break to preserve your sanity too!
Sending you a big hug. Being a sahm is one of the hardest things to do in life.
Aw, I feel ya. My youngest’s pre-school teachers told me he wasn’t ready for Kindergarten either, so I just kept him home an extra year. I figure he’ll be that much more mature when it’s time to go off to college.
When my three kids were that young, it was hard. I felt so bogged down in the day to day, and I still feel that way sometimes, but it’s not the same. It gets better. I promise you.
They’ll go off to school, and while you’ll face other challenges, that are difficult in a differet capacity, your freedom gives you time to decompress.
Hang in there! One day you’re going to turn around and wonder where all of your babies went!
I agree with Melanie. They grow up so fast that suddenly your babies are gone! BUT that doesn’t make it easier for the here and now, can you get someone to help out to give your a break? It sounds like you could do with it (and I mean that in the nicest sense).
Was it the school that said he is immature because of a lack of attention at home? If so shame on them. I wouldn’t worry about what they say at this age. Go with what you feel. If you think he’s ready for school he probably is.
rough time at the moment im sorry!!!
Melanie - I love your expression “freedom gives you the time to decompress”. That’s exactly how I feel: in need of decompression!
You know I’m right there with you honey. Lots of love.