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By ella | January 3, 2005
When I saw a therapist about my postpartum depression she asked me what kind of support I had when the babies were born. I said none.
I looked at her a bit blankly because I sort of assumed that was true for most mothers. You know - mother/mother-in-law lives other side of the country, husband works away or such long hours that he might as well be, siblings elsewhere/busy/self-absorbed. Until I moved to the incestuous village I now live in I knew no-one that lived near their families or even anyone who lived in the same place they were raised.
Until Second Son was over a year old, my husband had never bathed both the babies. Ever. Until Eldest Son was two years old, I never had a single day off from looking after the children (not counting caesarean convalescence which some days felt like being at a luxury spa hotel instead of a hospital - I hoped I would never have to leave). That’s two years giving twenty-four hour care, seven days a week to first one then two babies. However I also know that there are plenty of mothers in the same situation and despite the difficult days (and nights) I absolutely adore my children and I wouldn’t trade my life for anyone else’s. Hell, I want a whole litter of babies (although only one at a time please, Fertility God, if you are listening).
What sort of help do you get with bringing up your children and what effect has it had on you or your experience of parenting? Go on, tell me your horror stories and make me feel a bit better about mine…
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Categories: Daily Life
I love this site. This post definitely touched a nerve with me. I have a husband but I felt I brought up my three children (all under five) as a single mom. All my children were wanted and loved but some days I felt I couldn’t stand the site of them or my husband. How’s that for an admission? Now the eldest is at school there is a little relief but its still hard work.
Carla
My husband does bath time when he gets home from work. But that’s it, no chores, no feeding the baby her bottles, no getting up in the night. I wish he did more. It is so hard, and it has definitely put me off having more children for a while.
AH